Who's Running Who?

So I was recently told that I let my kids run my life and that I need to be the one in control. My first response was anger because for someone who does not know me to say such a thing is rather rude. Instead of saying something rude back I just laughed and walked away. Which is a huge accomplishment on my part. But of course the kind of person I am I couldn't just let it go. I thought about for a long time. This is what I came up with.
I'm not just going to say that I am always in charge because lets face it I am not. But that does not mean that my kids are. I don't really see that I have given up anything by having kids. So I cant go out and party whenever I want to and most of my money gets spent on my kids. I have never really wanted to party in the first place. And yes it is difficult sometimes to have to buy the kids something when I want something I am not going to lie. But even when I do have an opportunity to get something for myself I end up spending it on the kids by choice. I guess I am okay doing without so they don't have too. And that is my personal choice. I don't think I should be judged by that.
So then comes the question. When do you ever go do something you want to do? Well I don't really have a good answer for that. I honestly don't know what I would do if I had time. When I do have a break I usually take a nap. And Once again for someone trying to judge me cause I never really take advantage of "me time" is being ridiculous. Who cares what I do with my "me time". Its mine not yours mind your own business. I have always be the stay at home type even before my kids. You can even ask my mom. I took naps even in high school. I enjoy being home. Its my home. I don't need to go get my nails done, or go out to dinner, or go to the bar to have fun. It just makes me broke and tired. I am happy staying at home and watching TV. And that may be boring to some but its my choice. And I like being boring. My life is exciting everyday watching my kids grow and learn so many new things. When I am alone I want boring.
Well what happens when your out and they are throwing a fit..you leave? Well duh who wants to listen to kids screaming. I sure don't. And no I am not going to spank my kids or yell at them when they are crying because they are tired or hungry. And yes when they do this I do leave. But I don't see it as them running my life. I see it as I stayed out later and they are on a schedule. And I want them on a schedule. I think kids do better on schedules and I do too. So yes maybe I cant go anywhere after 8 pm. But really where am I going to go in the first place.I keep them on a schedule so I have time with my husband each night. Which there is nothing wrong with that. Especially when we too have to be up rather early. Plus as I stated above. I actually enjoy being at home. I see it as a plus when they want to leave because most likely I want to leave too and they are a better excuse than anyone I could make up.
So as far as who is running whose life. I am running my own life. My kids are not in charge but nor are they an accessory. They are part of me and I wouldn't want it any other way.